We Walked Him to the Door
This book is a memoir-style read told from the perspective of a widow whose husband, Ron, underwent a journey with Medical Assistance In Dying (MAID). The book goes into detail about Ron’s initial journey with his chronic disease, the fragmented effect it had on their relationship, and his ultimate decision to undergo MAID.
This book was eye-opening. I often read memoirs, especially ones about medical conditions, but this was one read that challenged me to really think beyond preconceived assumptions, which I appreciated. I was aware of Bills C-14 and C-7, surrounding MAID, which received royal assent in Canada in March of 2021 and even though this book touched upon that, I liked that it focused more on their family’s experience rather than the legal side of it.
I found myself ending the read with several takeaways. I thought a lot about Weber’s focus on the role that Ron’s doctor played in their lives. She described the way he listened compassionately, acted in softness, and how he helped secure their financial future even beyond his role’s expectations. As someone interested in healthcare, I am a strong advocate for excellent physicians and love how this book reaffirmed that. It also opened my eyes to how difficult it can be to prove the extent of physical suffering.
This book was engaging and written in an easy-to-read manner but did contain heavy themes such as grief, mortality, isolation, etc. The book was quite uniquely raw, even though Rob passed away, their relationship was not painted solely in a positive light. Weber wrote about their struggles and the complications that the illness caused, beyond just the symptoms.
This heartwrenching read is a good one for anyone looking to read a memoir. It is a great reminder for readers to be empathetic. One will never know the reality of what other people are going through. I recommend this book to anyone looking for a deep, heart-breaking, yet impactful read.
I rate this book 3.5 / 5 stars